I agree. Many, if not most, men aren’t really good at sex! I know that they seem perpetually surprised by this (?) but it’s true. They also don’t know how boring in and out is after initial penetration/first 90 seconds. They don’t understand how important being really into the person/relationship is to sexual attraction for women. If my husband wasn’t genuinely interested in me as a person (I know he cares, pays attention, remembers stuff & feels bad when he forgets etc) he wouldn’t still set my pants on 🔥 with just a naughty suggestion! Treating someone like their pleasure/comfort/thoughts are secondary is not…an aphrodisiac.