I think, based upon many of the stories I’ve heard from my friends, that many “boy moms” are actually henchmen-very effective ones at that- for the patriarchy, in that they out-and-out treat their daughters in-law like an inferior and inadequate nanny/whore for “her son” and an incompetent surrogate parent for “her grandchildren,” setting up a dynamic where every. Single.thing in both families revolves around the husband’s needs, bc mom won’t let him go.