It’s difficult to imagine all this bc of all the point blank feedback I as a wife ask my husband who generally acts disinterested in the conversation about the administrative details of our lives, which is where these preferences are discussed. I understand that “policy” is boring and “details” are boring too but shit! someone has to deal/decide and if husbands want to act like wives are unfun and drone on…then they are not actively participating in the infrastructure of their lives! Why do they think we’re talking about that boring-ass shit?! We don’t enjoy it! We just don’t want to wake up at 45 and wonder how our life got organized into something that happened without our input, like they apparently do.
Women solicit help/input/feedback/thoughts from their partners constantly. It’s welcome. Try giving some actual thought, doing some actual research, and acting like your personal life is as important as your job, interests, hobbies or porn, and invest 20 minutes of phone scroll time a day to research that and see what happens.