There was a TED talk (I’m aware that many smart people hate TED, but bear with me) that features the original behavioral psychology behind the concept of the Alpha Male and it was about chimpanzees, and not at all about being a bully. He stated clearly that the book was taken by Newt Gingrich and handed out to new GOP members, badly understood and then misused. The best leaders in primate societies are hugely empathetic, fair, sides with the underdog, and are much loved to the point that when they lose their status due to weakness (injury, illness) the tribe tends to him.