There’s a lot of misogyny in the world: from what I can extrapolate here, this is Dad’s third marriage.

Why aren’t you angrier with him for being such a lame, limp noodle? He sucks, and he makes his wife, ex-wife, daughter and mom have all the tough conversations/do all the emotional labor. Yup. Shunts the sh*t off on the girls. Eww. Reminds me of the cowards who dressed up as women to get on the lifeboats on the Titanic. Just eww.

He’s not *great* at relationships with women, communicating, or something here. Who knows what he says to his third wife about his second wife (you)?

Also, about her: she’s a child in her 20’s realizing she’s been out-maneuvered by an old man with way more baggage than she knew to ask about. It’s not all about you and your kid. He’s probably hesitant to have a child with her now, because he has to pay for college for his existing child, something he didn’t bring up when he was getting blowies from a sweet young thing way back when.

He’s gross. But you know this, you divorced him. Direct your anger at the right target, understand that you were once her, and hope for her sake she doesn’t have a kid with him.

Tell your daughter her dad isn’t a great role model on how to treat women, that his wife has some personal problems and not to take it personally, and to expect more from a future partner.