What a load of rubbish that “forgive lest you poison yourself” line is. It’s thrown out, usually to women, who are supposed to just absorb the abuse and smile sweetly for the sake of the rest of the world’s comfort. These men who block you and encourage you to “move on” don’t have a clue that you have moved on and you are burning down every.single.bridge.back. If they are shitty coercive control freaks (abusers) to their own children perhaps they should expect to see their own names in print sometime. Be proud. Your truth makes grown men feel like spouting nonsense platitudes like “chicken soup for the soul” books.