Why are the moms talking about this? Is it a proxy relationship? Do the adult offspring even care? It’s between them. Perhaps they had some problem. Maybe they don’t have much of a relationship, and a silent, overdressed Bible beater politely attending to please a bunch of relatives is a drag for him and and the couple.

This is not about you, your wedding photos or your feelings? You are entitled to your feelings, and it clearly feels like a slight to you, but many people don’t enjoy weddings and extended family, particularly when beliefs don’t align and they’re the odd one out. Divorced parents/kids/different socioeconomic situations tend to make for stressful socializing, particularly when you are the one with less capital.