Why didn’t you have the courtesy and courage to share your change of heart, which was a huge issue you bonded over for decades, privately with your BEST FRIEND instead of publicly in front of an audience? She had to process that in front of a whole group of people on your big bad bachelorette party, and pretend to be happy. How nice. Did it ever occur that this may have been a big deal to her and part of the reason she was looking a bit nonplussed? Because it was very insensitive.